Stay-at-home Moms

Before I was a life coach, I was a stay-at-home Mom. 

I LOVED being a stay-at-home Mom… for the most part. I felt so loved and appreciated by my son. There was nothing better than seeing him smile when I made his favorite meal, watching him nail a debate performance, or getting a hug from him when he was excited about something he’d done that day. I felt so honored to do for my son what my mother had done for me, and continue doing that for him. 

But I noticed the longer I was a stay-at-home mom, the less appreciated I felt by everyone except my son. I noticed that his teachers didn’t spend as much time speaking with me as they did with other working parents in his class. I heard my acquaintances who worked full time speak about how tired they are, and when I would say I was tired too, they would tell me I couldn’t understand how tired they truly are because I don’t “work”. 

I felt diminished. I felt so small and sad, as though my role as a Mom mattered less. It was an odd contrast; I have seen Mom shamed for not doing more in the home, but here I was being shamed for not working enough. 

Sometimes, there was no way to win as a stay-at-home Mom. If you work, you’re not spending enough time with your kids. If you stay at home, you’re not working hard enough to provide. If you stay at home, you’re perpetuating gender roles, but if you work, you’re not sustaining your nurturing side as much. 

Regardless of your status - working mom, stay-at-home mom, or somewhere in between mom - let’s show some support for each other. Motherhood is hard, no matter how you approach it, and we can only benefit from supporting each other. 

And if you’re needing some extra support or love, schedule a free consultation with me, or reply to this email. I’m thinking about making a coaching program just for moms, and if you’re interested, I’d love to send you a sneak peak ;)

Much love, 

Unnatti Jain